No More Dating, I’m Just Waiting

No more dating, I’m just waiting!

Gee, this one is a tough one.

Here goes a little background info on me with dating and relationships-

I have only had one boyfriend. That was from 2006-2007, almost a whole year. Good guy, loves God, funny, smart, a dare I say cute! I ended for the reason that I just felt it wasn’t the right time for a relationship. God kept tugging at my heart about it. I was this type of restlessness in my heart saying that it wasn’t the time yet. So I let go of him.

After that I began to do a little dating. I do have to admit, I dated the battlefield. This is a term my Pastor uses often when dating. The Battlefield are those men who are still not quite well prepared men for God. Men who are still more like boys, to my point of view. So I dated a boy from church, not my type at all but I liked his persistence . He asked me out three times and I turned him down. Then he asked me to be his girlfriend and I refused by answering to him “What do you like about me? I’m not the usual type of girl you date in the first place! You have seen me in church and know that I am dedicated to God. You on the other part aren’t.” He replied saying that well I’m different than other girls he’s dated and that he likes me being different. He gave it one last shot and asked me out again. This time I accepted. Went out once and came home uninterested.

Second guy I dated was from school. I met him at the college. Pretty cool guy, smart, great style in dressing, wise, and nice. Good guy overall. Went out and had a nice little hang out time but wasn’t quite what I was looking for.

Third guy and most recent guy was well… funny. I mean I guess most women are attracted to funny guys. I was. Though, for a while I would state that I would go for the ugly looking guys cause looks wouldn’t matter to me. This kinda proved me wrong. Looks matter, to a point. That was my turn off.

So… I dated the wrong guys for the wrong reasons. They all lacked one important, very important thing. That was a relationship with God. Duh Betty, what are you thinking!!!? Whenever I date a guy, that is always in back of my mind, but I try to keep it there.

God comes first! All those other things come after. Yes, dating is fun, no doubt about that. But to be honest, I’m not dating for the right reasons. I am not ready for a relationship, though at times I feel like I want one. I am happy single. & like a Spanish saying goes “Mejor sola que mal acompanada.”- Better alone than with bad company.

Its better to wait on God’s time. He has better plans for me, so I know He must have a better man for me too. At this point I am just praying. My ex-boyfriend and I are still good friends and waiting to see whats the next move, that is on God’s hands.