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Through The Potter’s Hands (again)

“Why do I have to go through yet ANOTHER trail?” I cried to my friend on the phone while talking to her about some of life’s recent strike against me. She then said “because you are strong”. Of course, me, strong. I went on about telling her how unfair it felt; how life has always… Continue reading Through The Potter’s Hands (again)

Infertility · marriage · The Blog

Forever and Ever

We sat there. Brief silence. Tears trapped. The topic was brought up again. We never know what strikes it. But there it is. Here it is. Silence. This time it was heavier. Thicker. Because his words floated.

“It’s my fault. I feel useless.”

I asked why.

“Because I can’t get you pregnant.”

It stung. I told him it wasn’t his fault. I mentioned his super sperm. I said the truth. It’s my fault and we both know it.

All this time he must’ve been blaming himself even with all the evidence. My heart sank for him.

I guess it got to him. All the judgement we received from the family. All the insensitivity. All the harsh words spilled out by someone he loved got to him. That happy-go-lucky guy that has “the force” with him blamed himself for my infertility. It took me a year to realize it…

Infertility hurts everyone. Wives, be sensitive to your spouses. He may not tell you what’s on his heart. He may not want to hurt you any more than you already are.

Be patient. Be loving. Be real. Be ready to listen.


My husband and I smile when our friends say our child looks like either one of us. It’s amazing how God works. We are eternally grateful for the blessing to be parents to such a precious baby boy. But there’s always, always, that indescribable feeling that makes me wonder how our biological child would ever look like.


my beloved

Most importantly, love each other. Infertility hurts marriages. I’ve seen it make you or break you. So I urge you to pray together. Listen to each other. Stop and slow down. Sometimes all you have to do is stop fertility treatments all together. Sometimes all you need is a vacation. Sometimes all you need is some space. But you will ALWAYS need each other. I may be a 23 year old talking to you about marriage, infertility, faith, adoption, and the military and that all may sound silly to you but listen to me when I say this- your marriage will NOT fail if you have God in the center of your marriage.


While you are on whatever journey you travel in life, take a second to refresh, look at your spouse, smile, cry, hug (do whatever you need to do), make sure you are on track with each other and pray together. Sometimes our marriage gets derailed in alignment with God. Life does that. Infertility does that. It leaves us with foggy minds, heavy hearts, and unsure paths. So take a second. Connect with your spouse and get on track with God so whenever life’s tough winds come trying to sweep your through, you are holding hands with no fear of the future.


Remember the vows you made to each other on that special day- “for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, as long as we both shall live” and mean it.

Forever and ever.

Adoption Journey · family · marriage · The Blog

When Your Other Half is 10x Better

Wine gets better with age and from what I’ve witnessed… so has my husband. Tomorrow is my husbands birthday. He turns 25. He looks 10x more handsome, charming, fitter, muscular, etc now than when we dated 6 years ago. I think I’ve noticed this all this week. Maybe I noticed it more this week because… Continue reading When Your Other Half is 10x Better

Adoption Journey · Faith · family · Friendships · The Blog

Then We Realized We Were Adopted

It’s been a little over a week since we got the good news. It’s also been a little over a week that we thought we’d see him. We haven’t. Some of these things take time. There are set backs. Anxiousness, excitement, let downs, but at the end of the day, Lucas is still ours and… Continue reading Then We Realized We Were Adopted

Adoption Journey · Faith · Infertility · The Blog

When the Doctor Mentions IVF

I had not seen my doctor since late December. He forgot to put a refill on my prescription for my prolactinoma (benign tumor on my pituitary gland) so I simply figured all things we normal. I saw him last Friday. I was excited to show him how much weight I had lost since the last… Continue reading When the Doctor Mentions IVF